Three Things To Help You Find Your Purpose

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I used to wake up at 6:30 am draaaaag my butt out of bed and survive the morning. Snapped at the kids frequently and felt super busy with a long list of things I felt I had to do (as opposed to wanting to). I was frustrated, felt stuck, ate horribly and drank a lot of wine daily. I was unhappy and trying to fix that feeling by taking on more responsibility for others…measuring my self worth by what I was doing for everyone around me. Not by how I felt about myself.
Why was I giving that power away?
Flash forward a couple years through difficult times, happy times, personal growth and experimenting with LIFE and my days are teed up SO much differently!
Now my alarm goes off at 4:15 but sometimes I’m too excited for the day and get up before then.
I start the day by treating myself to a quiet cup of coffee and a great workout. After that it is a joy for me to play short-order breakfast cook and school bus driver. Then the day is filled with photography, working my e-commerce business, blogging, housework, more school-bussing and -of course- taking care of MYSELF!  Because that is an absolute top priority (something that didn’t even used to make the list!!)!
I like to enjoy all kinds of healthy (and sometimes unhealthy) foods and an adult beverage from time to time, but a little goes SO much farther than it used to. I feel so content with myself, I don’t need to use food or alcohol as a reward anymore.

In turn, my marriage is better, my kids are happier…even my relationship with my dog is better (true!).  And I am happier and healthier( <—–most importantly)!

Don’t get me wrong…I still get frustrated, tired, anxious and I get run down. But now I know how to address and tackle those emotions in a healthy way.  I am in constant state of learning about myself.
My point is this, if you aren’t feeling fulfilled, put more purpose in your day.  What that means for everyone is different. Take care of yourself in the ways that -deep down- you know you should be.  The answer is NOT in doing more for others, keeping a cleaner house or posting always-perfect pictures of your life on social media.  That stuff is bunk.
Follow your heart.  Fill your heart. Stack your days so they are ones you can’t wait to tackle instead of days you feel like you just have to survive.
It’s about finding your PURPOSE.  What are you here to do?  Survive?  Make it through the day?  Endure parenting? Suffer feeling inadequate?  I bet not.  And I also bet that you are spending too much time and energy on those types of thoughts.
I invite you to do some soul searching.  What are you missing here? How you could be filling your cup so that you can truly pour into others and be of real value to the people in your life?  Maybe you feel drawn to create, build or design something but just feel too tired/unprepared/scared/inadequate to try.  Or perhaps you really want to shift careers, but just can’t figure out what your next move is.  Health is a big one…are you happy with how you treat your body; the vessel that is responsible for carrying your amazing soul around this planet?

Whatever it is…dig deep.  Meditate on it.  Spend some time with yourself every day and check in.  Ask yourself these 3 questions at the end of every day:

1). Do I feel fulfilled with what I did in my life today?

2). What did I do for myself today?
3). If I could do today again, what would I do the same? What would I do differently?
Let those questions be your guide for planning and mapping the following day.  Stay focused and make small strides.  Little by little, you WILL start to feel better.  And in turn, you’ll be able to DO better.  For everyone.

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